Single.....Why do people need to feel sorry for me?
Being single in my 30's in the Central Valley in California, is not that bad. Population-wise, there are not a whole lot of singles in this area compared to big cities such as LA, Bay Area, or New York. At times it seems like pickings are slim to bond with someone at that level to lead to getting married. But I have been content that I am single and have no regrets that I have not gotten married earlier in life. I am not looking for a wife, not looking for a person to hopefully become my wife, and certainly not wanting to "get married." The day I will look to get married is if I have already been in a long relationship with someone who I have gotten to know as a person and who has gotten to know me as person, the complete me. Then maybe I'll see what will happen. Until then........PARTY!!!!!
LOL
All kidding aside, the reason why this has come up is because when I communicate to those who ask me if I am married and I tell them that I never been married, they seem to go out of their way to tell me " oh hey that's oohkayy, don't worry you'll find someone" or "why aren't you married?" or that passive-aggressive look of like I just farted in church. Why is it that I need pity? OH PLEASE!!! FUCK THAT!!!
Do you know how may other times I get from married people and divorced people that tell me don't get married? and boy have I seen what divorce does to people. Shit, if you thought just breaking up of a relationship was tough, you have not seen the broken person that just felt like they have been through hell and back. But beyond that, why do I need to feel that I am in some type of lonely zone and have to always say that I am happy not being married? There was this joke in Playboy that said Why are there no smart husbands? Because smart men don't get married.
Some might say if the reason is I am a commitment-phobe and afraid of getting married. Well to be honest, I am afraid, OF DIVORCE!!
60% divorce rate, and in California its a 50% split of all assests, acquired during and before marriage. Unless a prenup is involved, you're screwed and think about it, doesn't it seem like you are damning the marriage to begin with if one or the other brings up the issue of a prenup? Isn't trust supposed to be the foundation of a marriage. Ask any person in construction, if the foundation is not solid, whatever you build on top will eventually tumble down. Later
EP
LOL
All kidding aside, the reason why this has come up is because when I communicate to those who ask me if I am married and I tell them that I never been married, they seem to go out of their way to tell me " oh hey that's oohkayy, don't worry you'll find someone" or "why aren't you married?" or that passive-aggressive look of like I just farted in church. Why is it that I need pity? OH PLEASE!!! FUCK THAT!!!
Do you know how may other times I get from married people and divorced people that tell me don't get married? and boy have I seen what divorce does to people. Shit, if you thought just breaking up of a relationship was tough, you have not seen the broken person that just felt like they have been through hell and back. But beyond that, why do I need to feel that I am in some type of lonely zone and have to always say that I am happy not being married? There was this joke in Playboy that said Why are there no smart husbands? Because smart men don't get married.
Some might say if the reason is I am a commitment-phobe and afraid of getting married. Well to be honest, I am afraid, OF DIVORCE!!
60% divorce rate, and in California its a 50% split of all assests, acquired during and before marriage. Unless a prenup is involved, you're screwed and think about it, doesn't it seem like you are damning the marriage to begin with if one or the other brings up the issue of a prenup? Isn't trust supposed to be the foundation of a marriage. Ask any person in construction, if the foundation is not solid, whatever you build on top will eventually tumble down. Later
EP
posted by obiwon69 at 9:40 PM
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